No. I am coming back within the next few weeks, and believe me, you guys will be sick of me!

Thanks! But I will change it soon.

"No one should have to give you a reason to celebrate YOU!"

Abby  A.

A quick breakfast of champions! (Euro-Cafe Style Vanilla Latte)

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The Best Relationship of My Life

  When I became a thirty-year-old, I realized one of society’s worst social practices was dating. As a woman, I believe there’s not enough promotion of self-exploration before we are pushed to bond with others for the rest of our lives. Many of us don’t know what are own bodies look like, not to mention, how they should look in their healthier states, and or how they function. Yet, in a high school, girls are discussing with their friends how to pleasure boys.  There’s something very wrong. What about learning what pleasures you? When does that education begin?

  I’ve heard many discuss female self-exploration as if it were some sort of mantra or slogan, but fail to realize knowing these things helps you to define yourself and be more than a soldier in one of society’s gender armies. 

  The last few years I’ve exclusively commenced to self dating. And it was one of the best practices I’ve ever adopted. I’ve always known what I liked and disliked, but I began analyzing my reasons—and, boy, did I dig deep. I questioned my reasons for everything I liked and what I wanted more of in my life. I also questioned why I envisioned a particular type of mate in my life. And, if I really, truly, wanted a mate. We’d be surprised which of our desires are based on social habits contrary to what actually resonates with us.

  I won’t apologize for my preference of spending time with my Yorkie, to meeting someone who hasn’t really bothered to get to know themselves. Or someone who views deep self-knowledge as a form of arrogance or pride. I’ve grown beyond lying about sexual fulfillment, when it was self-fulfillment that was orgasmic. I’m tired of the dangling carrot of love, financial security, or loneliness that, in reality, I am the best, and securest, giver of those gifts to myself. And I don’t have the energy to even want to impress, I’ve cultivated these traits for over thirty years so if you don’t like them, you’d best find someone else. 

  After all, the more I love myself, the less I need to ask for another’s validation. The more confident I am, the less insecure I will be with others. Last but not least, the more I give to myself, the less I will require.

In any relationship, it’s best to be wanted than needed. If a person needs you, it’s because they haven’t yet figured out how to give what you do—but that’s for now.

Abby  A.

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If you ever wondered why a woman would choose work that involves sex, nudity, or sexuality, it’s because she experiences power and control. She realizes the power over the one thing she truly owns—her body. With images daily drowning our conscious and subconscious minds, our minds are not our own, but our bodies…belong to us. For once, a woman has all the power and control in an aspect of her life that truly belongs to her.

The human body is truly magnificent, yet demonized. It is a vessel for consciousness, a protective house for the organs, a display for clothing, a life form for sexual exploration, flesh that can be made smaller, larger, lighter, or darker, and lastly, nature’s absolute work of art. Yet many women have been taught they should hide, be ashamed of, relinquish the power of, or ignore the one thing of which they have complete authority.

We know the value and power of the mind, but what about our physical nature?

All women want to feel beautiful, which is why we’re often asking others for the validation that should come from within. To think you are attractive is one thing, but to have pride and acceptance in your body (no matter your size), and be able to emanate and project that confidence outwards so strongly that everyone else is aware, is a totally separate issue. It is its own power.

We have the right to say more than, “No” and “Yes.” We can also say: “when,” “where,” “why,” and most importantly–”HOW”. For it is the one temple born of sole ownership.

In the United States, less than one hundred years ago, the total being of a slave was worth three-fifths of their counterpart citizens. Tell us dear woman, in this twenty-first century modern era, how much is your body worth to you today?

A woman who truly “owns” her body is the most powerful being in the world.

Abby A.

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"In life, we meet many people who like to remind us of our shortcomings and the people we once were before we evolved into the person we’ve always wanted to be, adopting the traits we admired in others. Let us contemplate: they knew you before you became smarter, wiser, stronger, and developed the will and determination to accomplish your goals. They knew the shell––not the substance. So if they’d like to boast about the unfinished product but not the masterpiece, the sentence but not the book, the idea but not the creation—let them go right ahead! Who you are today, and who you will be tomorrow, is a lot more interesting than who you were."

Abby. A

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We are all Philosophers, living our own Philosophy. The question is, “Are they sound?

Sa. 7. Apr 2012

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Abby A.